i was raped, kind of brutally, most people tend to shy away from sex because of that, but for some reason it hasn't done that to me. but sometimes i freak out and get scared, and in those situations, i have to be the one in control, and if i'm not in control (ex: positions where I am held down or not doing the movement) I can't "fully enjoy the moment" aka... orgasm).... that is my secret.

I'm sorry you had to go through that. :-\

Have you talked to a therapist or whathaveyou about it?

Temple hates me.

I thought Temple hated everyone. :)

I fake orgasms all the time. ALL THE TIME. I think I've only had three and it wasn't even with the person who is convinced he gave me my first.

That is unfortunate. Good sex is.. well.. good. :-p

Do you think that it's some sort of hangup on your end, or have you just been with lousy lovers?

Does this make you hesitate to get into intimate situations, since it seems inevitable that you won't have a chance to finish?

I think I am just weird. The only man I have slept with was wonderful and made me orgasm a little but I can't every time. I think it has to do with emotions. I don't have to hesitate, I am picky about who I do things with.

I don't think it's unusual for your enjoyment to be tied to emotions. Intimate situations are, after all, intimate.

If given the chance, I would definitely have sex with Jason Mraz. Twice.

Ha. I had to google up "Jason Mraz" to have a clue of who you're talking about. After having an encore performance with the man, I certainly hope you wouldn't kick him out of bed on the third go. That could bruise the poor guy's ego a bit.

Ooh shit, me too.

Bah! Who is this Jason Mraz everyone is speaking of?

Speaking of sex so much, I haven't gotten any in over a year and a half. Forget celebrities. I'll take what I can get these days.

Yes. It seems like everyone's confession is all about ill-freaky-nana. I suppose that's natural in our culture, though, where sex is sold on the streets, in the stores, and in the media, yet it is still concidered a taboo.

But, yes. Not gettin' it regular blows, yo.

I'm still in love with my ex-girlfriend. But I'm also in love with the current girl I'm dating casually. Is that possible? I'm also still seeing my ex occassionally and it's always sweet and romantic and it feels like old times. I don't know what to do.

Does it seem like the ex girlfriend is interested in restarting your old relationship?

Why did you two originally break up? Has whatever caused the first breakup changed or disapeared?

Does the ex and the current girl know of one another?

Perhaps I should change the original post's text from "I might ask a question" to "I will most certainly ask many, many questions." :)

Well, 1) yes and no. i think mainly, she just wants to fuck with my head, not get me back. and 2) we broke up because she's a psycho and she kept leaving me for other guys. 3) no, i don't think anything's changed unless she's matured a great deal. and 4) oh, they know each other. and hate each other. anything else i should cover?

I said I wouldn't give advice, but I'm also not supposed to know who this is, either, so I am not a complete stranger to the context. :-p

If you can be happy with the current girl, try to. The ex is being a bitch. You're going through a stage of your life with lots of changes, and the last thing you need is some psycho bringing you down.

Of course, that's all easier said than done, eh?