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Now cracks a noble heart. [Aug. 19th, 2006|11:08 pm]
Chaz Meyers
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Back in January, I talked about how my father went through two procedures, but never provided any follow up since that time. I don't like talking about bad things that heavily involve others because when I do so I feel like I am violating their privacy.

The past 7 months have been tiring. Although my father had been fighting Klippel Feil syndrome since diagnosed in 1992, a process which involved two brain surgeries in the 90's and left him with ever increasing pain and decreasing mobility, he managed to live life as a relatively independent individual. For years he lived life with a clear mind and without physical assistance.

The surgeries in January marked the end of that. My father never fully recovered from either of those January surgeries. For the first time in his life, he found himself wheel chair bound and dependent on others for basic necessities. This was a state he was dreading for years. He was plagued by a slew of infections. Worst of all, sometime in May he developed Hydrocephalus, or "Water On The Brain", which seriously compromised his cognitive capabilities and warped aspects of his personality.

The Hydrocephalus was just discovered a little over a week ago. By the time it was diagnosed, it was determined that the pressure had reached such a level that another surgery would be immediately necessary to prevent my father from lapsing into a coma. The surgery went as well as it could, but by this point his body had reached its limit. The major stroke that immediately followed the surgery did not help matters.

He spent another week in the hospital. On Thursday, his attending physician concluded that there was nothing more medically they could do for him, and arranged for him to be transfered to a local nursing home. On Friday, he was transfered.

Friday evening, after work, I went to check up on my mother and my father at the nursing home. His check in time was supposed to be 3:30, but the ambulance was late, so they had only arrived recently. My mother had stepped out of the room before I arrived so the nurses could weigh and bathe him. Some time had passed, so once I arrived she decided that we ought to see if they were finished with him. A nurse pulled us aside as we approached the door.

A few moments prior, while they were bathing him, my dad died.

Now cracks a noble heart. Good night sweet prince:
And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest!
-- Hamlet 5:2

As for arrangements, for those interested in that sort of thing:
We are not having a viewing. My father always thought those open-casketed things were barbaric, and he certainly wasn't a traditionalist.
The burial will happen on Saturday, 8/26, at St. Peter & St. Paul Cemetery. The burial will be followed by a luncheon. Times are yet to be determined. If you plan on attending the luncheon, please let me know so we can give the facility a rough headcount.

From: anewvoice
2006-08-20 03:47 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry that this happened. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please get in touch with me if you desire to talk about anything.
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[User Picture]From: duckssaymip
2006-08-20 05:48 am (UTC)
I told you this earlier on the phone, but I just wanted to say again that I'm here for you. I'll let you know for sure on my travel plans when my dad and/or sister call me back.
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[User Picture]From: instantdharma
2006-08-21 03:57 pm (UTC)
Awww you're coming up!?

I luff you, Mikey P.
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[User Picture]From: duckssaymip
2006-08-22 02:18 am (UTC)
Yeah, I will be up Friday afternoon, and I am staying until Sunday.... I might be bringing Jess, too, but I have not been able to get in touch with her lately, so I am not so sure.

On a side note, I would use contractions here, but my apostrophe seems to be bringing up the find window in firefox.... I cannot really explain that one, so sorry for the formalesque talk :)
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From: mattressmatinee
2006-08-20 02:49 pm (UTC)
chaz, i am really sorry for you loss.
if there's anything i can do for you please let me know.
you have a lot of friends and family who will be supportive to you during this time. be as strong as you can be and we'll be there for you too.
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[User Picture]From: finnell1912
2006-08-20 02:50 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear the news Chaz, Chris and I may be attending I'll have to talk with him.
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From: froggidyke
2006-08-20 04:39 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. I work in a hospital, its never easy.. Take care
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[User Picture]From: cpm
2006-08-21 02:42 am (UTC)
Thank you.

I was suprised at the degree of the reaction I received from the people working at the rehabilitation facility my father was previously at when I went to pick up his belongings today. I guess it's common to assume that people in health-related professions are used to death for some reason.
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From: froggidyke
2006-08-21 05:58 am (UTC)
Yeah.. personally for me, it never gets any easier.. and i dont' even have direct patient contact...
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[User Picture]From: regression
2006-08-20 11:27 pm (UTC)
i'm so sorry :( i wish there was something more i could say
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[User Picture]From: cpm
2006-08-21 02:38 am (UTC)
Thank you. I've been on both sides of this now and I never know what to say in either situation. :-)
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[User Picture]From: kellygrape
2006-08-21 02:09 am (UTC)
Oh Chaz, I'm so sorry. I will try to attend the burial - I live right around the corner. Ring me if you want, my cell's on the facebook.
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From: (Anonymous)
2006-08-21 03:32 am (UTC)
Very sorry to hear about your dad, Chaz. Chris and I are here if you need anything.

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[User Picture]From: qsical
2006-08-21 03:46 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry about your loss. My thoughts and heart go out to you and your family. I know it sounds awfully empty, but I truly mean it.
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[User Picture]From: damngoodphil
2006-08-21 04:02 am (UTC)
I'm really sorry to hear that, Chaz. You and your family are in my prayers.
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[User Picture]From: instantdharma
2006-08-21 03:35 pm (UTC)
I love you, baby.

Aymon, Dana, and I will be there.

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[User Picture]From: paininbutt
2006-08-21 09:30 pm (UTC)
babe im so sorry... i wish there was something more i could say.... call me if you need anything ... im so sorry...
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[User Picture]From: theresan
2006-08-22 01:52 am (UTC)
chaz, i'm so sorry. like everyone else said i'm here for you if you need anything
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[User Picture]From: approachmdnight
2006-08-24 01:48 pm (UTC)
Sorry about your loss.
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